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Guidelines for Preparing to Become a Bar/Bat Mitzvah

  1. Lessons are prescheduled with the melamedet three to four months in advance and are 30 to 45 minutes in length.  Please call me if you are running late or need to cancel a lesson. 
  2. Bring all your materials to your lesson. This includes your writings, Siddur and folder/notebook containing your Torah and Haftarah portions and your digital recorder. 
  3. At the end of every lesson, I will review your lesson plan (your homework) with you.  If for any reason you are unable to complete your assignment, I would like you to send me an email (arava777@yahoo.com) or give me a call (909-560-3313) to advise me of the problems you are having.  Remember, becoming a Bar/Bat Mitzvah is about becoming an adult and taking responsibility for what you choose and do not choose to do. 
  4. Always study out loud.  You will not be leading the service silently, so you need to practice with a strong, clear voice.  Practicing out loud also helps with self correction.
  5. Find a quiet place to study.  Don't multi-task!  You won't be productive if you attempt to study while listening to the TV or playing a video game. 
  6. Be on time for your lessons.  I try my best to run on time because no one likes to wait and everyone's time is valuable. 
  7. Feel free to call me between lessons if you have a question or just want me to listen to something you have been working on.
  8. There will be times I will ask you to email me one of your writings.  Please double-space.  I will offer my comments in bold letters and send it back to you in a timely way.  Please try to print the writings you are working on so we are able to review them in your lessons. 
  9. Make your Bar/Bat Mitzvah studies a part of your day and your learning will always progress.  You will retain more if you study 30 minutes a day rather than trying to complete your homework the day before your lesson.  Find a time that works for you and stick with it.  If you need help finding a pocket of time to work on your Bar/Bat Mitzvah lesson, the adults in your life are there to help and support you.
  10. One month before your Bar/Bat Mitzvah date, you will begin your final four lessons with the Rabbi on the Bimah.  This month is spent perfecting your knowledge and working with the Rabbi as you prepare to lead the service.
  11. Practice, practice practice.  Chant in front of the mirror, record yourself, and read your commentary to your pets.  Remember, comfort comes in knowledge.  Knowing your stuff is key to leading the congregation with grace and skill.